Comments on: Think Like the Rich

By: Melanie

Melanie — Mon, 26 Jan 2009 21:25:08 +0000

Actually, just recently I stumbled upon a perfect reward…success! I was pulling my hair out trying to get Justin to read more. He really enjoys the American Chiller books and his dad would read them to him at bedtime. Jeff got busy on a home project and was not able to read to Justin for quite awhile so Justin finally decided to read on his own. He was so excited to finish a chapter on his own that he quickly moved to the next and read that one until before he knew it he had read the entire book by himself. Of course everytime he did finish a chapter I was sure to praise him and encourage him to keep going. No matter what reward you give your child it needs to be obtainable, there is no better incentive than the ability to achieve.

By: Alicia

Alicia — Sun, 25 Jan 2009 16:00:28 +0000

As I am now learning, encouraging your children is the best reward they can receive. It gives them the support they need to know that we as their parents are proud of them and are there for them no matter what. It shows them that we believe in them and this will give them the courage to believe in themselves In turn, as a parent, I love to give my children things, whether it’s spending time with them, buying them things they like, etc, but I make a point not to specifically tell them why I am doing this for them. That way, they are not attaching these “rewards” to a specific behavior. I also think it’s important for them to learn the value of earning things. So I have implemented a saving and spending jar for my son so that he can realize the importance of putting effort towards earning what he wants so that he values it more in the long run, rather than always being handed what he wants when he wants it.

By: Jackie

Jackie — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 03:57:59 +0000

I very much endorse the power of focusing attention on the behaviors I appreciate -vs- those I would like to eliminate and have found it feels better for all parties. It eliminates scolding and nagging to change behaviors, my child takes pride in his positive achievements and he wants to come back for more! I wish this were a more familiar approach in the classrooms of our schools! Educators who employ this have inspired my child and brought out his best effort and excitement for learning!

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 24 Jan 2009 01:57:47 +0000

Many times my son has actually reminded me to praise him when he has done something, but other times, I offer to take him to movies, the park, or whatever it is he’s been asking about. I do tell him though that it might be something he needs to do, and it will make him and myself feel better as well as he will be a big responsible boy once he does it and others will be proud of him also. Explaining the pride others will show and showing my pride in him has helped tremendously. He loves to show others what he can do and feel that in himself.