Learning How Your Child’s Day Was

How many times have you had this conversion with your child:

“What did you do at school today?”


Going to SchoolTrying to engage your child with this conversion can be frustrating because they seem disinterested in talking. But, as Tony Robbins says, “If you ask the wrong questions, you will get the wrong answers.” So what if you could create a different approach that would change the entire conversation? That is my goal today.

First of all, understand that it is not that your child does not want to tell you what happened. They just don’t remember at that moment. Learning to remember is an important skill that needs to be developed to have a strong brain. Like any muscle, if we don’t use it, it will remain small and weak. Doing games like this with your child will help them use their brain and make it stronger. So one way to help them is to ask more specific questions.

Did you have math today?
What did you learn in that class?
Did you eat lunch with Jimmy?
What was the best thing that happened today?

These questions help your child focus their attention on a specific part of the day which in turn will help them remember what happened at that specific time. They will then be better able to use their memory and tell you about their day.

Here is a fun game that will get a conversation going AND improve your child’s brain.

Ask them to tell you two things that actually happened today at school and one thing that they made up. Then, guess which one of the stories is made up. For the first several times, and if your child is young, it may be pretty easy to guess. They may say, “I went to lunch”, “Mrs. Hardy read us a story” and “Aliens attacked the school and I defeated them all!” The point is to learn more about their day and using this technique, you will learn two things that happened that you may not have otherwise heard about. This also helps teach your child to reflect and remember the events of the day so they will be better able to store it in their memory.

By knowing how your child’s day was at school, you are better able to help them when they are struggling. A lot of times, children will internalize their feelings until they can’t hold them any longer and explode over something small – if you are a parent you can probably think of at least one time this has happened. It is important to know how your child is doing so you can help guide them through these stages of growth.

You will also be helping your child improve their memory which will benefit them for their entire life in lots of ways. The most important being their memory of you, as their parent, and the great fun they had growing up and spending time every day talking about their day.

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